Power

Recently I was interviewed for an article to be published in a local baby magazine. The article is about parents who have coped with having children with birth defects. With my own experience as a mom caring for my youngest daughter who had more than a dozen surgical proceedures before her 2nd birthday, I told the journalist that the hardest thing any parent faces when a child is ill, is feeling powerless.

I'm sure you will agree that one of the most painful feelings you ever experience, whether it is about your finances, relationships, family, health or life in general is the feeling of being powerless!

Feeling powerless to do anything about a hard situation, powerless to change things, powerless to help another is crippling.

This is a short lesson, but it is very important. It is about understanding power and powerlessness. The formula offered in the lesson came to me during a very siginificant intuitive tune-in and continues to benefit the lives of those who use its wisdom.

Here is a useful formula to remember.

Power = Responsibility + Choice

Take a few moments to think about the formula and what it means.

When do you feel powerless? Answer: when you feel like you have no choice, or no choices. How do you empower yourself? Answer: By finding where you do have choice, by finding and owning your choices!

The easiest way for you to give up your power is to give up your choices and your responsibility for the choices. This is classic victim consciousness!

The easiest way for someone to take your power away from you, is to take away your choice.

Whoever makes the decisions also carries the responsibility of the outcome.

To tell if something or someone is empowering for you or disempowering for you –
use the formula in this way.

DISEMPOWERING - If something or someone is disempowering - it limits your choices. It takes away your options and therefore decreases your sense of power. It also may encourage blame or assign responsibility elsewhere – reinforcing mindsets that decrease your sense of responsibility.

EMPOWERING – If something or someone is empowering - it increases your awareness of your choices. It highlights or creates more options and increases your sense of power. It also encourages your responsibility – reinforcing mindsets that increase your sense of responsibility for your life and actions.

What parts of your life and thinking empower you? What parts disempower you?

When you get afraid of your own power, do you want to know what you do to yourself? You pretend you have no choices, or you hide your choices from view! How often do we say - "I can't" as a way to pretend that we have no power. "I can't leave my job", "I can't change my circumstances" when that is simply not the truth. We could, but choose not to. We DO have the choice but we pretend we don't becuase we are afraid of the power and the responsibility of the consequences of acting on our power.

To become a self-empowered person, you must own your power by being honest about your choices. Rather say, "I could, but choose not to right now" than "I can't".

One of the quickest and easiest ways to empower yourself, is to find, create and push your mind to become aware of the choices you do have! Intuition is a great tool for finding new perspectives and new choice.

Challenge your body's fear of power, responsibility and choice. Remember that not choosing is still a choice and therefore still an act of power whose consequences you are still responsible for.

Make a list of your actual choices, and be aware of which ones frighten you. Help your body to claim its power by being conscious of your choice and finding ways to create new choices where you did not have before. Face and equal yourself to your responsibility, be accountable for your power. Stand in the world awake and on purpose, don't hide from your power... Choose on purpose!